“…no young lady can be justified in falling in love before the gentleman’s love is declared, it must be very improper that a young lady should dream of a gentleman before the gentleman is first known to have dreamt of her.”
- Jane Austen (Northanger Abbey)
I am not quite sure if the quotation above is still true or applicable today. Many or most of the ladies today (somehow it includes me) were so impatient for love to arrive. More often, ladies already had an ideal or should I say a guy whom they secretly admire in their hearts. Sometimes though, they were even unaware that little by little they are falling in love to that person may that be a stranger, an acquaintance, a friend or even an enemy. I would bet that by now you have the picture of that person in your head.
Furthermore, is it really improper for a lady to like someone if he’s not even telling the lady that he does so? I am quiet puzzled by that thought. Who dreams of the opposite sex first is it the lady or the man? Hmm, somehow I have a theory in mind. God first created the man before the woman, and the man is the one who pursues the lady. Could it be that it is the man who first dreamt of the lady and that is why the lady also dreamt of the man? Sounds foolish, but it’s a thought that I can’t remove in my mind.
Moving on, it can also be possible that it is the guy who falls in love first of the lady. So ladies, you can’t say that you fell in love in him first before he does. In another sense, if you were already in love with that person now and is uncertain if he feels the same I guess he does like you somehow and you just don’t know it… guess the latter phrase just draw a smile on your face ladies.
I’ve only read two novels written by Jane Austen; Northanger Abbey, and Pride and prejudice. In the novel that I first mentioned, the man whom the heroine fell in love with didn’t give any hint that he is in love with the lady. The heroine just knows in her heart that he does. In the other novel, the lady didn’t like the man but in the end she realized that it isn’t really hate that draws her to the man but love, which she is so afraid to unfold. It is indeed the man who fell in love with the lady.
Though, man as hardheaded as they are, never overlooks things but scrupulously examine things, events, situations and circumstances. Man always plan for things and go headstrong if the opportune time came. However, most of the time their timing is so bad that they end up rejected. Unknowingly, they weren’t really rejected but they just came at the wrong time.
Therefore, I think it is the man who commits mistakes… because more often than not when ladies fall in love the man is also in love with them. Unlike when man fall in love it’s either a yes or an awful no… but well, ladies weren’t as genius as man. Some of the ladies book of revelation hasn’t open yet and they were still blindfolded that what they are longing for had been there for long even before they ever knew it.
